Deciding on a memorial
It can be tough deciding on a memorial for your loved one.
The funeral directors, Tom and Birgitt from Affinity Funerals will guide you through the process of choosing the right memorial that suits your loved one as well as utilising their 20 years of experience to your advantage.
Below are some of the ideas that have happened over the years at Affinity Funerals.
Some memorial ideas
Balloon releases are mostly held at a funeral or memorial service whereby family and friends each release a balloon into the air, quite often with a message attached to it. A ‘balloon release’ could be held annually to mark the anniversary of their passing.
Releasing baloons can symbolize many things such as sending prayers & messages to Heaven, the soul taking flight to Heaven, a sign of letting go of grief.
Fill the balloons with a small amount of flower or bird seeds. Place a small amount of the cremated ashes in the balloon and release it over an area that was special to your loved one.
Some things to consider for the safety of our environment:
- Try to use something other than curling ribbon or anthing plastic or non bio-degradable. String, cotton or nothing is preferable.
- If releasing a large amount of balloons, do it somewhere away from rivers and oceans. This prevents the popped balloon remains from falling and harming aquatic life in the area.
- Latex balloons are normally 100% bio-degradable, foil balloons are not.
- Instead of attaching note cards to the balloons, use a black marker and write your message on the balloon.
Gather together some of your favourite photos, even those odd photos that bring to mind some funny memories. Arrange them in an album and write the stories that these photographs tell.
Decorate the album with things you associate with them such as their favourite hobby, pets they owned, sporting teams they admired, certificates and acheivements they earned, careers they had, anything that you feel is relevant and worth including.
Display your photo journal in a place where it can be seen openly and turn it to a new page each day or week.
Remembering and celebrating special days
There are certain times of the year that we feel the loss of our loved ones very deeply. Occasions such as Christmas, Birthdays, Mothers and Fathers Day, Anniversaries etc.
If you feel particularly fragile during these times, then it is probably a good idea to try and be with others who can help share your grief.
On these occasions, do something in memory of the person who has died. This can be something they enjoyed doing when they were alive such as going to the movies, eating at their favourite restaurant, going fishing, the zoo, have a picnic in their favourite park, listening to music, playing their favourite sport.
Continue special traditions that your loved one enjoyed to do during these occasion. If it’s a birthday, buy a cake and light some candles for them.
If it’s Christmas, spend the day with other family members and friends. You could give gifts that once belonged to your loved one, jewellery, photos or hats are some ideas.
On anniversaries, buy yourself a gift to mark that particular milestone.
Pay a visit to the cemetery during the day and have a chat to them as if they were here.
Take photos of the day and keep them in your photo journal.