If your friend seems very closed off and distant during this time of loss, it is important to understand that this is a natural reaction to the loss of a loved one. They are feeling an empty void in their life that no one and nothing will ever seem to fill. By being there for your friend regardless of how they are grieving is a true and real friendship and does help them push through these difficult times even though it may not feel that way at the moment.
As you and your friend move forward from this time, showing your support is a component of their healing process. Here are some ways our funeral directors here in Sydney have provided to you, ways in which you can help them:
Listen: Our first instinct is to talk about what is going on and help them understand the pain they are feeling as they grieve. Let your friend do the talking to express their emotions and the feelings they are experiencing through their grieving process. Ask to hear about stories and good memories they love to think about. Some people bottle emotions up without ever getting how they really feel off their chest. When they are ready to talk, having a supporting friend to be around and listen is a healthy part of healing.
Dial Their Number: Calling your friend regularly to check in on them gives them a familiar voice to get their mind off of things. Texting and emailing has really taken a big role in our lives nowadays and hearing a voice over the phone is much more personal and comforting. Your friend is probably receiving many messages online and having a real conversation with a friend will help them realize that you are really there to support them whenever they need you through their grieving process. Your friend may not feel up to making the call due to their emotions, so initiating a conversation will lift their spirits.
Seek Help: If you are noticing that a great deal of time has passed and your friend doesn’t seem to be getting back to their normal selves, it may be time to seek professional help. If you notice they are falling behind in education or their career, showing anti-social tendencies, or they haven’t regained an appetite for food and life, there are many routes you can take to support them. Support groups or therapists can guide your friend down a road to regaining their happiness and start feeling normal again. Offer to go with them so they don’t feel alone in the process.
It is not an easy recovery from a loss of someone close. Your friend needs you more than ever during these time and it is important to voice that you are here for them as they get through this difficult time of grief. If you have any other questions or would like to talk to our funeral directors here at, Affinity Funerals in Sydney, for any advice you may be seeking, you can contact us here. Our next blog that our funeral directors here in Sydney, have prepared for you is about the stages of grieving to help you get a better understanding of what your friend may be feeling and how this fits into your life.